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Patricia Haltof

March 7, 1922 ~ January 30, 2018 (age 95)

 Patricia Haltof, at the age of 95, died on January 30, 2018, at Falmouth by the Sea in Falmouth Maine.



          Patricia was born to Susanna and William P. O’Hara on March 7,1922 in Bangor County Down, Northern Ireland. Patricia was 7 when she began attending the Dominican Convent boarding school in County Wicklow, Ireland, 120 miles from her home in Bangor. She continued there to finish her primary education. Through her senior year she attended the National School of Music in Dublin one day each week where she learned the fundamentals of music and elocution. She would often speak of her time in Wicklow as if she were telling a fairytale. She learned by heart much of Shakespeare, Yeats, Tennyson and other classic poets. Throughout her life Patricia was always at the ready with an apt and pithy quotation for almost any situation.

          In 1938 she and her oldest sister Kathleen went to work in the Northern Irish Ministry of Finance where she readily admitted she did not belong. She moved through the Ministry of Agriculture and onto the Ministry of Home Affairs which was responsible for wartime rationing of resources such as petroleum. It was the beginning of World War II and although she understood the seriousness of the war, her work at the Ministry of Home Affairs was, as she put it, “all a bit of a lark to us.” Her father owned the Royal Hotel in Bangor. During the war the British officers took over the top floor and the American officers the floor below. 

          Patricia was then offered a job at the Royal Air Force Langford Lodge, on the grounds of a former estate near Belfast in Northern Ireland, where the Americans reassembled aircraft, preparing them for war. It was there that she met her future husband Carl Haltof. He would often tell the story of spotting her through a bombsight that he was installing in a B-17. They only saw each other a handful of times before Carl was shipped to Hawaii. They exchange letters and telegrams for 21 months until December 19, 1945 when with only 24 hours notice, Patricia was offered a seat on the flight to Chicago. She left Ireland for the first time and met up with Carl in Chicago. They were married on December 29, 1945. 

          Patricia and Carl had four children and spent most of their early years together living in and around Allendale New Jersey. They lived briefly in Webster, New York and then Commack, on Long Island before moving to the Mount Washington Valley and Fryeburg where she spent the last 50 years. She worked as an innkeeper, a store clerk, a volunteer at Memorial Hospital, she was a real estate agent, a volunteer at the Fryeburg library and above all a homemaker. 

Patricia loved many things including music, theater and telling stories but many will remember her best as a lover of poetry.


Life! I know not 

          what thou art,

But know that thou 

          and I must part;

And when or how 

          or where we met,

I own to me’s

           a secret yet.


Life! we’ve been 

          long together,

Through pleasant and 

          through cloudy weather;

T’is hard to part, 

          when friends are dear.

Perhaps t’will cause 

          a sigh a tear;

—Then steal away, 

          give little warning.

Chose thine own time.

Say not good night

          —But in some brighter clime.

  Bid me good-morning.


A. L. Barbauld



Patricia was predeceased by her husband Carl Haltof, her sister Kathleen O’Driscoll, her sister Peggy Lee, and her brother Bill O’Hara.

She is survived by her son Garry Patrick Haltof, his wife Barbara Simmons-Haltof and their daughters Christine and Allie Haltof of Penfield, NY, her son Mark Haltof, his wife Susan Haltof and their daughters Jeannette and Julia Haltof of cape Elizabeth, ME, her daughter Melinda (Mary Linda) Cadwell, her husband Thatcher Cadwell of Dover, NH their daughter Katherine Cutler and her great grand daughter Madison Cutler of Hoboken, NJ, and her son Andrew Haltof, D.O. of Hartford, ME.

Patricia will share in the Masses and Prayers of the Cloistered Sisters of the Precious Blood as Perpetual Member of the Precious Blood Union.


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